My work aims to support women to release trauma from their female bodies so that they can live their lives to their full potential, free from shame and discomfort, fully expressing their divine, creative selves.
Our bodies are sacred.
Women carry so much shame in their bodies. We are too fat or too saggy or too old or too pale. We bleed and it is messy. We hide our blood.
The word “cunt”, that word that names our female genitalia, is widely seen as the most vile word in the English language, the worst insult. It used to be a word indicating respect and prestige.
Female sexuality is seen as dangerous. Something to be controlled and suppressed. Women are shamed out of expressing their sexuality. Those who dare are slags, sluts and whores.
It is time to shed this shame and reclaim our bodies as the beautiful, precious, sacred vessels that they are, carrying us through this life on earth.
Maiden, Mother, Maga, Crone
As women, we pass through a series of hormonal changes during our lifetimes: menarche, motherhood & menopause. These hormonal changes are female rites of passage. They are initiations into the sacred: our bodies perfectly poised to take us on the journey from maidenhood to elder, each initiation opening new doors and opportunities.
And yet, in the world today, our female initiations are full of trauma and shame, and are so often medicalised with drugs so that many women pass through these initiations without expanding their full potential and worse, are sometimes thoroughly damaged and diminished by their hormonal changes.
Women create and grow life inside their wombs. New life enters this planet through women’s bodies.
This natural process is often disturbed – miscarriages, abortions, traumatic birth, caesarian sections: all these events leave an imprint on a woman and can affect her ability to mother, to bond with her child, to feel balanced in her centre.
Each month, between menarche and menopause, while we are not pregnant or in lactational amenorrhea, we flow hormonally through our menstrual cycle, from menstruation to ovulation and back again. Each menstrual cycle represents a micro-initiation. Each month is a creative cycle with the capacity to bring new life to our planet or to birth a creative project and each carries a gift of wisdom. Women carry the potential to learn, to grow and to serve their communities through their menstrual cycles.
And yet menstruation is a byword for pain and suffering. Teenage girls are given hormonal drugs to suppress their cycles because they are so debilitating and doctors have no other answers. Many women are crippled by their monthly cycle. Menstruation has become “the curse”, when it is meant to be a blessing.
Within our female bodies, we have the capacity for untold pleasure. Our sexual energy is a powerful, creative force, so powerful that patriarchy has sought to suppress female sexuality through shame for thousands of years. The result is that many women struggle to experience orgasm at all during sex. Many of those who are able to orgasm during sex have their experience of orgasm limited to clitoral orgasm. The delights inside our vaginas are often unknown. The deeper pleasures available to us all, including g-spot and cervical orgasms, remain elusive.
The work I offer is an invitation home to our bodies. Through deeply reconnecting with our bodies, processing trauma so that we can inhabit our bodies more fully, letting go of the shame and the pain that is not ours to hold.
“The moment a child is born, the mother is also born. She never existed before. The woman existed, but the mother, never. A mother is something absolutely new.” Osho
After the birth of my son 8 years ago, my life changed forever. At the time I had no idea that birthing was an initiation for women, nobody spoke about how profound the changes could be. Our society focuses on “getting back to normal” after a baby, when of course there is never any going back.
In the years that followed, I would begin to learn the things about the female body that should be our birthright to know, knowledge that was taken away from us hundreds or even thousands of years ago. I began to honour my body, track my cycles and strengthen my connection with the earth. I learned the value of sisterhood. I picked up a paintbrush for the first time in 15 years and painted my journey, creating artwork that I am very proud of, some of which graces these pages. You can see more at here.
Two and a half years ago I began training in bodywork and learned the importance and healing power of touch. I use Emotional Detox therapy in my home on a regular basis as a first aid practise to help my child process his emotions when they get stuck in his body. He now asks for massage when he feels overwhelmed by emotion as he knows it helps him to shift.
At the same time, I began to deepen into my sexuality – this part of me that had lain dormant since the birth of my son. I learned about tantra, trained in Jade Egg work, discovered orgasmic potential in parts of my body that had been previously unconnected with pleasure. I became passionate about sharing these “secrets” (which should be common knowledge) with other women and I set up a website with a friend making tools available to women to explore their internal universe consciously.
My training with Tami Kent added another piece to the jigsaw. The Holistic Pelvic Care™ method which she teaches is vital health care for any woman, and in particular all women who have given birth should be entitled to receive this care.
The journey is ongoing. I spiral each moon. I learn, I create, I love, I despair, I scream, I discover, I deepen, I sob. I am truly grateful for the life I lead, for my home, my family, my friends and community and my time on this earth.